‘Beautiful’ Women & Kids-on-towI don’t know how far this is true in the case of ‘beautiful’ women in other countries, but I’ve noticed in the course of the past decade how so called ‘beautiful’ women, when married, and with child or children, tend to walk ahead of their children and not with them.
They don’t hold their child’s hand, or walk beside them, but do the ‘strut’ in front of them. And if they do turn around to check to see if the child is still in tow, it is infrequent, and only a quick glance is given. Well, it is not just now that I noticed this phenomenon, but the past decade or so. This is not as much the case with ‘normal’ or ‘less beautiful’ women. After all, one has to ensure that one makes such comparisons as well because one’s observations might be tainted by the possibility that one tends to remember more things about ‘beautiful’ women than ‘normal’ women and thus wrongly allege that the former do more of this than the latter.
I suppose when we don’t have the ‘shortcut’ of looks to rely upon, we might focus more on character.I pointed this out to a couple of Chinese friends whilst sitting at the neighbourhood coffeeshop (‘choice@203’, opposite Singapore Press Holdings). Perhaps, i remarked, they don’t want to acknowledge that their status has changed from ‘available’ to ‘married/mother’. Or perhaps they don’t want the public to view them as either ‘married/mother’ so that they can be appreciated for the ‘hot chick’ identity they might have thrived on prior to being married, becoming a mother.
This makes me wonder what their ‘beauty’ was based on previously. What amount of self-absorption does it take to leave your kid trailing you as if on an invisible leash? How much of their self-absorption has been encouraged by society, the media, and men as a whole? And i wouldn't be surprised that having men, their husbands, their employers, and their dogs on a leash makes them pretty well-practiced enough to do unto their kids as they have done unto all.
And how, I wonder, are such women perceived to be ‘beautiful’ in the first place? For myself, such women are a major turn-off. I often wonder how my friends and acquaintances can gawk at such people and not notice their grossly arrogant and self-absorbed ‘expressions’ on their faces. I suppose men tend to encourage such rubbish in women.
My reaction to such expressions is not unlike a heterosexual’s when a beautiful women pulls down her knickers only to reveal a penis. Oh yeah, I still check them out - perhaps some part of myself is still primitive enough for me to do so - but i’m under no illusions as i’m fully aware of what they are in persona and wouldn’t give them more respect that i would the ‘ah so’(old lady) who serves tea and coffee at the coffeeshop. Or, to be honest, i would probably be friendlier with the ‘ah so’ given their genuine smiles. I suppose when we don’t have the ‘shortcut’ of looks to rely upon, we might focus more on character.